tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7088310994540836944.post2784301692159724080..comments2023-05-01T07:43:20.334-07:00Comments on The Fraser File: Feeling guilty your child is deaf? One CODA's advice...R. M. Fraserhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17425046521284447194noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7088310994540836944.post-7671304940978810402012-02-12T21:19:19.757-08:002012-02-12T21:19:19.757-08:00Anonymous,
Thank you for your comment as any pers...Anonymous,<br /><br />Thank you for your comment as any perspective is welcomed to be shared. Having said that, I am informing you now that I will be responding to your comment in my future posts. You mentioned you do not intend to insult me, and I take it on face value that it is not your intention. Regardless of that, you still have. <br /><br />You have brought up some important counterpoints that I feel need to be addressed. Throughout these posts, I hope you will come to understand why I see things so differently. <br /><br />R. M.R. M. Fraserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17425046521284447194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7088310994540836944.post-63765386521299599752012-02-12T11:25:21.594-08:002012-02-12T11:25:21.594-08:00My son was born profoundly deaf. We as hearing par...My son was born profoundly deaf. We as hearing parents learned to sign and used total communication at home. He wore hearing aids, which didn't help much because the sound was so distorted. Our son opted for a cochlear implant starting at 12 years old, and was finally allowed one at 15. He enjoys the pure sound that hearing aids could not provide. He never attended a deaf institute, but was mainstreamed throughout his public school tenure. I'm proud to say, with both pidgeon ASL and working with him at home he graduated from high school reading and writing at high school level, he tested into college English 101 (immediately), and graduated from community college with an AS degree and a certificate. <br />My point is this, if you have children YOU are responsible to raise your children, no matter what they are or if they have a handicap. This does not include sending them off to be raised by others. Your child is a part of your family and you should love them and pay attention to them so they are nurtured. It is my experience that most of the students (that I have met) coming out of deaf institutes today lack the ability to read and write English fluently. I believe in the past the curriculum for deaf institutes was more oral and English based, so a lot of deaf people who attended them were able to obtain adequate lessons in English. What a blessing for them!<br />I do not intend to insult you, R.M. Fraser, but until you have a deaf child and have lived through raising one I believe you may not really understand what it is truly to be a parent of a deaf child. Thank you for your opinion, but I must agree to disagreeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7088310994540836944.post-17138570345910096982012-02-08T19:29:51.885-08:002012-02-08T19:29:51.885-08:00tina and lisa, thank you for your comments. I am s...tina and lisa, thank you for your comments. I am so glad to know this is reaching others who can benefit from it.<br /><br />R. M.R. M. Fraserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17425046521284447194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7088310994540836944.post-59925959764995601182012-02-08T10:53:20.525-08:002012-02-08T10:53:20.525-08:00Fantastic write up. Tears galore! I think my mom h...Fantastic write up. Tears galore! I think my mom has carried some of the same guilt for years. 3 deaf daughters, oral school, ASL much later, LIFE blossoming afterwards! Your story reflects thousands of us! Thank you for sharing this! Thank you Tina Jo for posting this on KW!Lisalunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16214337926848527978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7088310994540836944.post-41871126980048030182012-02-07T23:38:19.501-08:002012-02-07T23:38:19.501-08:00Great read...am gonna share this with the KODAs on...Great read...am gonna share this with the KODAs on KODAWest FB page (if not already!)tina jonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7088310994540836944.post-73057129931289243212012-01-30T17:10:43.144-08:002012-01-30T17:10:43.144-08:00yours evenyours evenR. M. Fraserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17425046521284447194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7088310994540836944.post-64987627253926241422012-01-30T17:10:28.005-08:002012-01-30T17:10:28.005-08:00fantastic and welcome! Ill be checking out your sh...fantastic and welcome! Ill be checking out your shortly.R. M. Fraserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17425046521284447194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7088310994540836944.post-9236608017102369582012-01-29T23:25:46.707-08:002012-01-29T23:25:46.707-08:00new follower ;) Come swing by my blog @ YA Story ...new follower ;) Come swing by my blog @ <a href="http://vanya-drum.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow"> YA Story Teller </a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07160640273010325793noreply@blogger.com